Wednesday, October 22, 2014

Humiliating Tasks

I recently conducted a poll of readers on my 'Becoming A Mistress' blog that indicated men who are subject to their wives, want more “Humiliating” tasks (among other things). More than 50% of the men who took the poll indicated that they would like their Mistress (Queen, Goddess, or whatever) to assign them more humiliating tasks than they currently are.
I found this interesting because I have always said the men enjoy performing these kinds of tasks. What am I talking about? IF you don't know, then you need to start doing it. Here are some examples of humiliating tasks that you can easily assign your subby-hubby to perform.
  • Make him buy and wear panties. Crotchless work best with men. He can wear them to work under his regular clothes or he he can wear them and nothing else around the house (assuming you don't have kids at home).
  • Play dress-up. Dress him up as a women complete with makeup and a wig. Don't worry, you don't have to take him out, but it would be nice to capture the Kodak moment.
  • Make him go to a public restroom and masturbate. Have him text you a photo or video from his phone to prove he did it.
  • Have him drive out into the country, strip naked, and run around the car three times before you let him back in. Or send him out by himself and have him text you a “selfie” to prove he did it.
  • Have him masturbate for you and your best girlfriend (or two).
  • Too much? Okay,make him eat his dinner out of a dog dish on the floor. While naked, of course.
  • Have him masturbate into his morning coffee... And then drink it.
I am going to stop there. I think you get the idea. Men want you to “force” them to perform humiliating tasks. So why not make them happy? They will love you for it!


Mistress Ivey
(Obey Me!)

Friday, October 17, 2014

Sex Is NOT A Chore

Sex should never be thought of as a chore! If having to do everything you can think of to satisfy your sub (hubby, partner, lover, or whatever) seems like a chore to you, then you are NOT doing it right.
It is extremely easy to make all this attention you have to pay to your guy more fun. After all, if you are not having fun, then why do it? Right?
Okay, so let's see how to make things more interesting on your part. If you are not feeling particularly interested in having any kind of sex when your sub-hubby gets home from work, try doing something fun instead of having intercourse, or whatever you you were going to do. The best part about being a Mistress is that you get to be in charge. So have fun with it. Try doing one or more of the things listed below...
  • Make him masturbate for you. Right there in front of you. While you are wearing your comfy clothes. Make fun of him while he does it. “What? Can't get it up? Come on, hurry up. I don't have all night.”
  • Better yet, have him stand next to you while you relax watching your favorite TV show. He should be naked and close enough for you to reach his cock and balls. Fondle him. Stroke him. Play with him. Just don't let him cum. See how long he is willing to stand there like that.
  • Tell him to go put a plug in his butt and make him sit and watch TV with you. Or better yet, have him go out and get take-out for dinner. But make him be naked while you eat it. Maybe feed him. Don't let him remove the pug until bedtime.
  • If he is in chastity, tell him to go watch porn videos on his PC for an hour or two. He can't masturbate. He can't ejaculate. But he CAN get all turned on and feel the pain of his cock as it swells in it's cage.
  • Take him out on the back porch naked and throw water balloons at him. So what if the neighbors see? You are having way more fun than they are! Besides, you're not the naked one
If you use your imagination, you can come up with some ways of your own to humiliate your partner and have fun in the process. My research says men want more humiliation in their lives anyway. Why not give it to them?
Men also want more humiliating tasks to perform for their Mistress'. So next time, I will give you some ideas to help you do that as well.
Mistress Ivey
(Obey Me!)


Monday, October 13, 2014

Asserting Authority

If your partner, guy, sub-hubby, submissive or chastity salve keeps wanting to “top from the bottom,” that is, he keeps telling you what he wants you to do, or dress, or talk, you need to assert your authority over him. Many men who “claim” they want their better half to be their Mistress, Queen, Princess, Goddess, or what have you, yet they can't seem to let go of their control. They want what they want, and they want it “their” way.
These men know what they want, but the problem is, they are asking you to fulfill a fantasy that they have probably spent years developing. At the very least, they are fixated on what they see on the Internet, and not on reality. The reality is, if you want to be controlled by your woman, then be prepared to do what SHE wants, not what you want!
As a woman who has faced this problem, and helped other women get through it, I have figured out exactly what you need to do to get these kinds of men under control. If you follow these simple steps, it should help.
  1. He must be naked. It makes him feel more vulnerable, especially if you are not! In fact, wearing your normal, everyday street clothes work well. It's NOT a good idea to “dress up” for him at this point.
  2. He should be bound at least enough that he can't use his hands. You can bind him to a chair, if you like. The best way, however, is to bind his hands and make him kneel in front of you. A blindfold is an excellent idea as well. The bedroom is a BAD place to make him do this. Almost any place else would be better. Again, you want him to feel vulnerable!
  3. Hold a riding crop, a cane, a paddle, or even a hairbrush in your hand while you do this. Again... Vulnerable! You are going to smack him with it. You can smack his balls, his cock, his nipples, or his bottom (if it's available).
  4. Walk around him while you speak to him. Use a firm, even tone. Do NOT act timid during all this. You have him at your mercy. Don't let him think for a second that you don't. If he speaks while you are talking (other than to answer any questions you put to him) smack him with whatever instrument you are carrying. You don't have to hit him hard, at least, not at first. The more he talks or interrupts, the harder you will want to smack him.
  5. Tell him what you expect from him. Be clear and concise. If you want him to stop telling you what to wear, tell him. If you want him to strip naked the instant he enters the house, tell him so. Lay down all the rules you have for him and remind him that you WILL punish him for any disobedience. Ask him if he wants to be controlled. Ask if he wants YOU to be in charge. Ask him what he is willing to do in order to get those things. Finally, remind him that he wants this. Remind him that you will NOT put up with him telling you what he wants. Remember, this is all about YOU not him.
  6. This should take you about fifteen minutes or so. When you have finished, make him repeat your rules, or ask him if he understands each rule and repeat them for him.
  7. Now you can release him or play with him for a little while. Make sure he is fully aroused at the end of your session.
If you can follow these simple steps, you are on your way to a happier, healthier FLR. There is one more thing you MUST do. You must punish him for any disobedience exactly as you promised you would. It's important that do this because he will test you. If you fail his tests, then you will lose control. There isn't a great deal you can do once that happens. You must make him respect you by keeping your word. He understands respect. If you gain his respect, then you have won!


Mistress Ivey


Friday, October 3, 2014

Starting Again!

Sorry to have ignored this page for so long. I won't go into the many reasons why that was, but I am here now, so you can rest assured all is well.

I would like to point out the new “Be My slave!” page. I am now accepting applications from those who would like to learn what it is to be a sub or slave to someone like me. THe procedure is the same. If you would like to give it a try, please feel free. I am accepting individuals (male or female), Couples, or Keyholders who need help. Individuals will be given the opportunity to serve me through the performance of tasks. As before, those tasks will be assigned on an individual basis. That is, no two will get the same set of tasks as I always create them for the sub/slave personally.

There will be some changes to this blog, most will be subtle. So keep watching and perhaps you can learn something. If you have questions, please post them here.

Mistress Ivey

Friday, October 18, 2013

Thursday, October 17, 2013

Captioned Photo 10-16

As promised here is another captioned photo for your enjoyment...



Mistress Ivey